What do men *really* look for in women?

[La Femme Fatale]

My friend's boyfriend and I had a little argument about what men look for in women. I unfortunately have a more skeptical view of the motives of men than he did, so to resolve the argument we created two online dating profiles - one of a blonde, midriff-baring 'model' named Britney who is into 'par-taying, gettinnnn smashed, and watching Jersey Shore'. The second was an average looking girl named Emily - still cute but not drop dead gorgeous, who was into politics, travelling, and music. We left the profiles overnight. In the morning, Britney had eight pages worth of responses from men, while Emily only had two. One guy had me laughing my ass off, when he told the blonde girl she 'seemed more mature than most women and had a head on her shoulders'. Yeah, okay.

So, what do people think? How important is physical attraction for both men or women? Which one would you have gone for? Why? Does it depend on what you're looking for?

 

[Meg]

What dating site was this? I can't help but wonder.

And how many of those comments for each were men actually interested vs. just being an idiot?

 

[L]

Anyone here that has known me for a while knows I'm not like a normal kid. Anyway, for me it's personality and at least average looks. As long as they're not growing a beard or something it's alright. However, I am still a child so this will change over the years likely. Sex appeal goes pretty low on my list, though.
I would have went for Emily had I been an adult. I don't have a very big sense of humor anymore unless I see it coming.

Edit: I should also note my opinion probably doesn't count for much.

 

[La Femme Fatale]

This was Plenty of Fish I believe... which does have a reputation of being a booty call site but my friend and her boyfriend met on there which is why we used it. Maybe the results would have been somewhat different if it was one that made you pay but that really wasn't an option haha.

From the ones I read, most people who responded were very serious. I had a couple people who smelt out the fake profile right away, but the vast majority of them came across as very interested in her.

 

[L]

This was Plenty of Fish I believe... which does have a reputation of being a booty call site but my friend and her boyfriend met on there which is why we used it. Maybe the results would have been somewhat different if it was one that made you pay but that really wasn't an option haha.

From the ones I read, most people who responded were very serious. I had a couple people who smelt out the fake profile right away, but the vast majority of them came across as very interested in her.

It is quite obvious. Unless you saying she liked "gettinnnn smashed" had been an add on. That would set off multiple warning bells in my head, to say the least. I guess any ordinary guy would like that. By the way, respond to some of "Britney's" messages. Even create dates and stand them up, if you're that cruel.

 

[LordGolbez]

A Lot Of "Dating Sites" Are Just Places For Some Easy A** Instead Of For People Who Are Actually Looking. My Best Guess Is The Reason That "Britney" Got More Responses Is Because Of The Male Reflex To Procreate The Species So You Go For The One That Looks Easiest, That Or The Guys Interested Are Just Stupid, Probably A Mix Of Both.

As Far As Physical Attraction, I Think That It's Important To A Certain Degree. If You Are Attracted To Someone You Are Likely To Pursue A Relationship But It's Not Everything. I Suppose It Just Tailored To The People Involved.

As For My Choice I Would Have Talked To Emily. Mainly Because I Hate Jersey Shore And Excessive Drinking, Also Because She Is Smart So Yeah.

 

[Meg]

This was Plenty of Fish I believe... which does have a reputation of being a booty call site but my friend and her boyfriend met on there which is why we used it. Maybe the results would have been somewhat different if it was one that made you pay but that really wasn't an option haha.

From the ones I read, most people who responded were very serious. I had a couple people who smelt out the fake profile right away, but the vast majority of them came across as very interested in her.

I think what site it was had something to do with it. I've found that guys could like the blonde hair/big boobs but they can also like, if not prefer, other types as well. I think it's more the immature stupid guys that only go for D-cups and blonde hair type. I've found that there are a lot of real men who love women for other reasons.

 

[cheezMcNASTY]

Physical attraction is necessary for every relationship, but it's not everything.
Guys are more forgiving than you might think.
...Ok, maybe I wouldn't date a girl if she was 300lbs and her pass times included everything I was into, but on the flip side I wouldn't give Megan Fox the time of day if her passtimes included shooting heroin and animal cruelty.

I think the line gets drawn here. What guys look for in physical attraction is mainly either face, chest, behind, or legs.
For me personally, I like a girl with a cute face. She doesn't have to weigh in the double digits but she can't be Moby Dick come again. It isn't as shallow as you might think either. Why would I be interested in someone who can't look after themselves? I look after my health when necessary, I don't think it's too much to ask that she would be able to do the same. Hygiene is important.

If that's a check mark, I very much look at interests and personality. Out of those two profiles you posted, I guarantee that every message Britney received was a one night stand while Emily probably was messaged about something more serious. Personally I would have drawn the conclusion that Britney's an airhead who's more trouble than she's worth. Why? She's used to having guys left and right, so in the end what am I worth to her?
Meanwhile Emily would value me higher. Her looks are passable and she's got a head on her shoulders - that's what I would be looking for.

Men are flawed in that we are very visually stimulated. The hottest girl will no doubt get the most attention. With maturity comes the realization that you don't just have to 'score' with a girl, you need to enjoy eachothers company. I'm a pretty good looking guy and I don't look for a woman among the most attractive ones. Even if she did go for it, what would I be left with afterwards?

I think a girl's fault is to overlook that the best suitor is usually the one who is invisible at first glance. They're the ones who would stick around.
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[L]

I don't even know what to say to this hypocrite. It's easier just to reject the guy if you're going to go that far.

 

[Hoady]

I'd go emily over britney any day.I assume the blonde bimbo partying everyday is miserable underneath.There is only so much you can drown yourself at parties talking to idiots who see nothing more then that lifestyle or watching crap MTV shows.I see her living an incredibly superficial life and that is simply who i am not.I don't reject drinking or partying at all but my impression from her is that obviously if thats all you have got to live for, which many appear to do, then i am not interested.And you cannot have a healthy relationship based purely on attraction, it simply doesn't work.

I'd say i am attracted to nice,caring,intelligent women.A girl who is not afraid of speaking her mind/not politically correct about things and can just have a laugh.I don't want petty drama or fights,its a waste of time and energy.Obviously in some cases it might be necessary to release anger or whatever but i have to say that almost every fight i have seen in peoples relationships during my lifetime(which is countless) are ridiculous.And yeah attraction is important.Pig out,smoke or whatever if you want but keep well. You don't need to put makeup on every second of the day either..you look great without it.

Oh and for the whole britney winning thing.As mentioned, more of the extroverted are just trying to get one nighters so you hear about them more.Nice guys are usually hiding away, same goes for girls.I just think men are conditioned by society to think that way..with the oldschool 'tribal' societies in the south pacific or torres strait islands still around today you usually have nude women walking around and you don't have guys going "MMM get a look at that"no they look them in the eyes,not up and down,they are not trying to get to some end goal.I can't remember if it was egyptian or what but i remember women who used to be feared somewhere in history..they were viewed as a symbol of new life,power,beauty.You can't just 'tap that' its something immensely sacred...I might try find that now.

 

[aoshi]

I think i would go out with britney. I like partying as well. I also prefer if she has a good sense of humour. I don't expect anything serious about women.

 

[Romero]

My friend's boyfriend and I had a little argument about what men look for in women. I unfortunately have a more skeptical view of the motives of men than he did, so to resolve the argument we created two online dating profiles - one of a blonde, midriff-baring 'model' named Britney who is into 'par-taying, gettinnnn smashed, and watching Jersey Shore'. The second was an average looking girl named Emily - still cute but not drop dead gorgeous, who was into politics, travelling, and music. We left the profiles overnight. In the morning, Britney had eight pages worth of responses from men, while Emily only had two. One guy had me laughing my ass off, when he told the blonde girl she 'seemed more mature than most women and had a head on her shoulders'. Yeah, okay.

So, what do people think? How important is physical attraction for both men or women? Which one would you have gone for? Why? Does it depend on what you're looking for?

I shun cheap women so I would absolutely not have talked to "Britney". She gives the impression of lacking in intelligence, or just being extremely immature. Either way she would just be a waste of my time, I need someone who I actually can have interesting conversations with. Perhaps "Britney" would be okay talking with for some minutes plus a dance if I ran into her at a bar, but she's not the kind of girl I'm falling for and I would not follow her home.

Physical attraction is important, but I don't fall for someone whose only quality is being beautiful, the way you described "Britney" would be a turn-off for me. Out of the two, "Emily" is the only possible candidate.

Actually I have never fallen for the most gorgeous model-looking girls around me, I choose pretty girls with an attractive personality. Describing an attractive personality is difficult, part of it is chemistry. She has to be a kind person who is not too selfish, have a good sense of humor, being intelligent, capable of independent thinking (not conform to political correctness), and hygiene are all important factors. And she must care for her own health; not being too skinny or obese, and not being addicted to tobacco or worse. I don't want to get involved with a serious health problem, but she must not be fanatic about health and sports either. She don't need to share my political views, but we must have some values in common. She also has to be down to earth and not always be looking for a new party (it sounded like "Britney" does that). And lastly the most important thing of all, she must be someone who I can really trust.

I know I am asking for much and ruling out many good women, but I'm after all looking for more than a lover.

 

[Meg]

Actually I have never fallen for the most gorgeous model-looking girls around me, I choose pretty girls with an attractive personality. Describing an attractive personality is difficult, part of it is chemistry. She has to be a kind person who is not too selfish, have a good sense of humor, being intelligent, capable of independent thinking (not conform to political correctness), and hygiene are all important factors. And she must care for her own health; not being too skinny or obese, and not being addicted to tobacco or worse. I don't want to get involved with a serious health problem, but she must not be fanatic about health and sports either. She don't need to share my political views, but we must have some values in common. She also has to be down to earth and not always be looking for a new party (it sounded like "Britney" does that). And lastly the most important thing of all, she must be someone who I can really trust.

I know I am asking for much and ruling out many good women, but I'm after all looking for more than a lover.

Don't worry, you didn't rule out me.

I don't expect anything serious about women.

You mean you don't like serious women or you don't expect women to be serious?

 

[Hoady]

Kind off went off topic there..but to correct myself there it wasn't Egyptians but Celtics...Equality works best.

 

[L]

Kind off went off topic there..but to correct myself there it wasn't Egyptians but Celtics...Equality works best.

Hatshepshut was feared, and she was Egyptian. And then she killed herself cause she was doing both Caesar and his most trusted general.

 

[Hoady]

Hatshepshut was feared, and she was Egyptian. And then she killed herself cause she was doing both Caesar and his most trusted general.

I didn't know egyptians and romans were in contact during that time.The only knowledge i have of the romans is from gladiator which is probably not legit.. i highly doubt Caeser was killed by an aussie guy called Glutinous Maximus xD

But yeah i'm sure there are many societies/cultures in history that have had woman as the dominant figure.Look at cats, the women are more territorial and hunt more while the males are lazy asses who wanna be patted lol

 

[L]

I didn't know egyptians and romans were in contact during that time.The only knowledge i have of the romans is from gladiator which is probably not legit.. i highly doubt Caeser was killed by an aussie guy called Glutinous Maximus xD

But yeah i'm sure there are many societies/cultures in history that have had woman as the dominant figure.Look at cats, the women are more territorial and hunt more while the males are lazy asses who wanna be patted lol

Caesar's death was orchestrated perfectly by multiple people in government positions right after he had proclaimed himself dictator for life and had a whole bloodline thing going. Brutus was the main killer.
Also, this was right around the time the Greek's came into Egypt. And then Hatshepshut realized she was going after two men and killed herself. And then the Carthaginian guys came in and declared Egypt theirs. Anyway, we should get back on topic. This isn't a history lesson.

 

[aoshi]

@Meg : Depends on wat women are serious about. I am not into women who have a big ego. I am not ego-istic however i have self esteem. So some one who has a good self esteem and not so serious about life is impressive in my opinion.

I don't understand how emily is better than britney. I do find the characters to be linear which is odd in reality. Someone who parties hard can be intelligent too. I find britney to be a happy-go-lucky individual which is wat men like than serious women like emily.

 

[Hoady]

@Meg : Depends on wat women are serious about. I am not into women who have a big ego. I am not ego-istic however i have self esteem. So some one who has a good self esteem and not so serious about life is impressive in my opinion.

I don't understand how emily is better than britney. I do find the characters to be linear which is odd in reality. Someone who parties hard can be intelligent too. I find britney to be a happy-go-lucky individual which is wat men like than serious women like emily.

I agree with you on the ego part.Egotistical side is always trying to prove something,preserve its identity,get somewhere while Self Esteem has nothing to prove.You are more rooted into whats going,naturally confident(not to be confused with arrogance) and in the moment i guess.

You make a point there but the whole "gettinnnnng smashed" akind of shows..i dunno immaturity.Fun and not being a serious person has little to do with partying imo.If it was "don't mind getting drunk/partying(not PARRRTAYYING)," i'd have a different viewpoint.

 

[Meg]

^Agree. If you want to party sometimes then go ahead, but Britney 's word choice makes her come off as immature. Oh course both cases have little to go off of because its just a profile. Assuming they were both real then there could be a lot more to both of them. The thing is though is that even though Britney could be really smart she still parties too much based on her profile. You can be smart and still be immature. (I know a lot of people like that XD.)