Question of the Week #19
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La Femme Fatale
The Queen
I think it depends entirely on what your idea of revenge is. I personally think that being successful and living well is the best revenge you can have on the people who have betrayed or wronged you. Back in 2014, I put my two-weeks in at the hotel because my manager had gotten (wrongfully, I believe) upset at something I did and brought me into his office to scream at me straight for a good 5-10 minutes. The next time I saw him, I was working for the parliamentary secretary to the Minister of Finance. Obviously you need to be gracious, but there's nothing more satisfying than success - and it doesn't hurt anybody. 
tremor
4 itchy tasty
I think it depends entirely on what your idea of revenge is. I personally think that being successful and living well is the best revenge you can have on the people who have betrayed or wronged you. Back in 2014, I put my two-weeks in at the hotel because my manager had gotten (wrongfully, I believe) upset at something I did and brought me into his office to scream at me straight for a good 5-10 minutes. The next time I saw him, I was working for the parliamentary secretary to the Minister of Finance. Obviously you need to be gracious, but there's nothing more satisfying than success - and it doesn't hurt anybody.
I need not say anything. Femme covered it
Venomous Oddball
Also Known as Maddy
I agree with Femme. Last year someone I thought was one of my best friends told my best friend he never cared about me, actually always hated me. He said I'm "boring and useless" and a whole bunch of other stuff. It does still bother me and I honestly agree with the boring and useless comment, but then sometimes I'll think that it's another reason to keep going and try harder... so I can rub it in his face while not seeming like I'm rubbing it in his face. xD
KennedyKiller
Super Saiyan Member
I am not the type to hold grudges. I will always forgive someone for what they've done. I even forgave my dad after not speaking to him in over four years. I don't necessarily condone revenge, just because after you get it, what are you left with? How long did you fight to get it, then what's next? However, I am human, and as such, I do get a sense of satisfaction when I know I'm doing better than someone who wronged me.
cheezMcNASTY
Entertain me.
"Getting back at people" is never worth it, enforces the wrong behavior, and usually snowballs people into being unable to stomach small affronts and accidents. It's a petty way to be. The high road has it's name for a reason.
JaguarsSoul
ayşegül ϟ
Femme is right tbh; I always will feel terrible and angry when seeing my ex, for instance, do well, and it always fills me with happiness to see his life take a wrong turn. So there, have a view from the other side of the fence- although, mind you, I did nothing to him to be vengeful towards me. It's the other way around, actually, but that's a story for another day.
Venomous Oddball
Also Known as Maddy
Jen
Girly Gamer
I don't ever actively seek revenge. However, if I'm not in the wrong, I won't forgive until the person that did me wrong comes up to me and apologises, and acknowledges what they've done.
I also very strongly believe in karma. If someone wrongs me, something bad will happen to them too. It's happened lots of times. And as people have already said, showing someone that you're fine and moving on with your life is revenge enough.
I also very strongly believe in karma. If someone wrongs me, something bad will happen to them too. It's happened lots of times. And as people have already said, showing someone that you're fine and moving on with your life is revenge enough.
Hel
Goddess of the Dead
A lesson I have learned in many different situations: Acting on your impulses usually has a surprisingly low chance of getting you the satisfaction you were hoping for, but always trying to be the better person has a high chance of making you everybody's favourite punchbag forever. Most people don't learn from their mistakes. Allow them to wrong you once without any consequences, and they will do it again. And again.
When it comes to revenge specifically, it depends on the person and what they've done. If you hurt someone I care about, I will take that as an invitation to play football with your head. Lower crimes usually aren't worth the trouble of exacting revenge, though, since every minute you spend thinking about someone you hate is basically a waste of your time. Personally, I don't forgive and don't forget. That's my kind of revenge, if you want to count it as such. I may not come over and burn your house down, but once our relationship is damaged, don't expect things to be the same again, ever.
When it comes to revenge specifically, it depends on the person and what they've done. If you hurt someone I care about, I will take that as an invitation to play football with your head. Lower crimes usually aren't worth the trouble of exacting revenge, though, since every minute you spend thinking about someone you hate is basically a waste of your time. Personally, I don't forgive and don't forget. That's my kind of revenge, if you want to count it as such. I may not come over and burn your house down, but once our relationship is damaged, don't expect things to be the same again, ever.
Romero
Her royal court joker
My answer would be both no and yes, it depends. And there are many forms of revenge, everything from ignoring someone to using violence. Even being gracious with someone can work as revenge too. It comes in many shapes and forms, and I personally think it's a dish best served cold. Mostly because it gives you time to think it over and consider what is appropriate.
If someone committed a crime, let the law and court carry out the revenge on behalf of the offended party. If the offense was not a crime, or if the crime can't be proved, then you have to either let it go or find your own solution that works for you. If you seek revenge then you'll have to consider what you can do within the law, don't become a criminal yourself.
I don't believe in an eye for an eye, but I don't believe in turning the other cheek either. I'm not Jesus and nobody expects me to be.
Why do humans revenge? I think that historically, the risk of revenge have acted as a preventive against wrongdoings.
"But revenge just causes more trouble and even wars!"
Yes, that is true. But because a wrongdoing against the other tribe could result in revenge and eventually war, my guess is that the risk of revenge worked as a preventive.
Revenge is a consequence for something, and consequences are what prevents us humans from doing wrong.
I've not given much thought to this, this is just my 2 cents that I jotted down after thinking about the subject for ten seconds.
If someone committed a crime, let the law and court carry out the revenge on behalf of the offended party. If the offense was not a crime, or if the crime can't be proved, then you have to either let it go or find your own solution that works for you. If you seek revenge then you'll have to consider what you can do within the law, don't become a criminal yourself.
I don't believe in an eye for an eye, but I don't believe in turning the other cheek either. I'm not Jesus and nobody expects me to be.
Why do humans revenge? I think that historically, the risk of revenge have acted as a preventive against wrongdoings.
"But revenge just causes more trouble and even wars!"
Yes, that is true. But because a wrongdoing against the other tribe could result in revenge and eventually war, my guess is that the risk of revenge worked as a preventive.
Revenge is a consequence for something, and consequences are what prevents us humans from doing wrong.
I've not given much thought to this, this is just my 2 cents that I jotted down after thinking about the subject for ten seconds.