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Online Dating: am I opening myself to being stood-up?

La Femme Fatale

La Femme Fatale

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So, after a long hiatus, I decided to get back into the dating game again (which I absolutely loathe but whatever).

I met a guy on OkCupid from Niagara Falls… we hit it off - he's really good looking, witty, and easy to talk to -and agreed to meet after just a couple chats. It was supposed to be tonight after my work, at a bar that's pretty close to my hotel and my friend's place - in the case that he's a creep and I need to peace out. It's not out of my way at all.

We hadn't yet exchanged phone numbers and had no way to contact save for the website… and when I went on to confirm last night, he had deleted his profile. So, if I do want to meet him or talk to him again, my only chance is going to this bar to see if he's there or not.

Should I bother? My friend suggested the two of us going - so that way if he no-shows, we will sit there and have a drink or two ourselves, and I'm not looking like that poor girl who got stood-up in a bar. But then, some others said it's a total douche move and I shouldn't' waste my time, even if he is there.

Thoughts?
 
I'm not an expert on this since I don't use online dating websites (Nor do I plan on using any, ever.), but I would say no. There's a lot things about this that are just not adding up for me and he sounds suspicious. Mainly because he deleted his account without meeting you yet. It would make sense afterwards (Depending on how everything went), but not before. Also there are some other things that seem suspicious, mainly that he didn't give you any contact information before deleting his account, he deleted his account before you met him personally, and a date at a bar at night. I know people go to bars at nights, but just adding everything else in, it just doesn't seem right in my mind.
 
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Well, the venue was my choice - blind dinner dates are super awkward for me and I'd much rather be comfortable and talk over a beer or two. And like I said, it gives me the option to peace out if I need to.

I guess it wasn't so much of a date as it was a 'let's meet up and at least see if we click' kinda thing. I think I will go, but not by myself.
 
I agree the fact he deleted his account without letting you know is weird.
If you was to go don't do it alone just incase
 
La Femme Fatale said:
Well, the venue was my choice - blind dinner dates are super awkward for me and I'd much rather be comfortable and talk over a beer or two. And like I said, it gives me the option to peace out if I need to.

I guess it wasn't so much of a date as it was a 'let's meet up and at least see if we click' kinda thing. I think I will go, but not by myself.
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I also took that the bar was your choice into consideration as well. As long as you and your friend don't get too drunk, I think it'll be fine, it's just that the thing that's bothering me and that's making it suspicious is you're going to a bar at night with a guy who deleted his account and didn't give you any contact information, if you and your friend get too drunk it leaves him with the perfect opportunity to commit 3 crimes to 2 people in 1 night and almost be able to get away with it. Maybe there's something I'm missing or maybe I'm just too paranoid and I'm over thinking about it (More than likely I am.).

Well I do hope that everything goes well for you tonight. Just please stay safe.
 
Well you know I don't do dating period but especially not the online stuff. I think this whole situation sounds really strange and that, no matter what you do, you should be careful. I honestly wouldn't go but, if you do, take your friend with you and make sure you stay alert and don't let anyone you don't know buy you drinks, etc.
And when you leave, make sure no one follows you home just in case he's some weird stalker.
You're an adult and you know how you want to play this, just be careful.
 
Book Of McGlynn Memories said:
There's a lot things about this that are just not adding up for me and he sounds suspicious. Mainly because he deleted his account without meeting you yet. It would make sense afterwards (Depending on how everything went), but not before. Also there are some other things that seem suspicious, mainly that he didn't give you any contact information before deleting his account
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I fully agree with Book here. I guess it's safe to go if you don't go alone, but safety isn't the only concern. I think it's reason to question that guy's stability.
 
Well, he never showed. Whatever. He did, however, create a new profile with a completely different age when I was at the bar - and 'liked' me so I could see it. I called him out on being 5 years older but I wonder if I should ream him of for being a prick.
 
Sorry to here it didn't work.
Not trying to step into your business, and let me know if I am, I can delete the post.
I've never really heard of a dating site working for anyone. Not sure if you're into nightclubs or not, but I would try that and see if you someone. Just a suggestion.
 
Actually, online dating does work if you're lucky (I know a couple that met online, they're happily married and have a child now), but it's still a shady business because you never know who the person you're talking to really is, if the guy on that photo he sent you is actually him or his brother who is ten years younger, or if he is actually a man in the first place. I never trust online acquaintances. Femme, I think you did the right thing by choosing a meeting point in public and not going there alone. Did he ever explain his absence or the lies about his age?
 
Screw him.
The way I see it
He's missed out and messed you about so why give him the time?
Try again with someone else who's better deserving.

General response:
These things are risky and some do end bad. Horribly bad but some end up good, and very good.
It's a chance that people should attempt, these websites also try hard to make sure the worst outcomes don't happen.
It's possible he lied about his age, got picked up on it and was auto deleted possibly.
 
The good thing is that you've only had a couple of chats before you discovered he's a prick. Sometimes people don't find out until much later.
Sorry it didn't work out, better luck next time! :smile: Online dating is common and some people get lucky. But I personally believe the workplace is (usually) the best place to meet someone.

Send him an angry message and tell him you're buying lots of knives and plan to stalk him. :rage: (Or maybe don't. :P )


La Femme Fatale said:
a booty call
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Do I dare look that up? o_O
 
What a s****y thing for someone to do, sorry that dude decided to be a jabroni. Dating websites can be hit or miss, I've met a couple people from 'em and it never ended up being more than just a fling, sadly.
 
That is some To Catch a Predator **** right there...

It's strange because I think online dating is easier (not ALL the time) because most of the information is already there...so you can google their ass and find out if they're a serial killers or if they've been on "Carnal Housewives" or "Resident Evil Circle Jerk". Plus, it saves meeting irl and discovering deal-breakers in a public setting and sitting in awkward silence if you find out that they're bed wetters, they hog the sheets in winter, they enjoy screamo or if they don't like Nutella.

but seriously, stay classy. I would've replied after seeing his new profile "Who the **** are you?" his dick was probably crayola sized and he felt insecure meeting you.
 
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