Do they know the real you?

[Meg]

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Exactly. Even though we are both from the same area of PA there are so many people in that area alone that we'll probably never bump into each other. Even if we did I doubt we'd realize it.

 

[VP-70]

I'm a private guy at heart anyway, so how others see me is of zero importance to me.

there is no prize for being my friend, or punishment for being a foe... i simply am who i am, and i'll never change.... i'll improve...but never change or bend to anyones will but my own.

I believe most people in todays world simply don't have time to show the real them to the world, or learn about the real them.

My dearest of friends, know what to expect of me... that's to say, expect the unexpected lol....they trust me, and i am fiercely loyal to them.

To me, there is nothing more important in life than being honest to yourself, and with yourself. everything after that should fall into place.

 

[Angel]

WYSIWYG - that's me, really. I hide nothing, which is probably a bad thing, but I'm someone who tries to be as transparent as possible in my real life, so it kind of spills out online. If I'm behaving like a child online, chances are I'll continue to do so once the computer is off; it's just how I am. Naturally, I am careful about revealing areas of my life online but if asked, I'm honest - even if it's to say "sorry, but I don't feel comfortable telling you that".

Stuff that doesn't bother me to talk about is stuff I freely discuss, so long as it's not going to hurt anyone else. I mean, I've spoken on here about being an alcoholic a few times because that fact doesn't bother me. I don't care about it - it's where I used to be, I'm a better person for giving up drink and actually the more people that know about it, the less chance there is of me going back to drinking. There are some people on other boards who know about my ex - they know how he treated me and they know why I get more affronted by certain threads than other people would. So they back me up when someone starts shooting their mouth off about a subject they clearly know very little about.

I suppose I could try to be more of a mystery, but that's effort and I'm not known for making efforts with anything

 

[aoshi]

I associate myself with online communities on subjects that i really have knowledge about than jus sharing profiles or making friends to avoid boredom. Since i have knowledge on subjects, i tend to get into arguments. I don't find anything wrong in arguing as long as people don't mislead arguments into personal attacks. Most of the time, I find arguments to mislead...they get all emotional demanding respect or start presuming as the other party is being mean in not agreeing with them.

Despite allegations against me, I prefer hanging out here cuz i got a couple of good people who enjoy my company. For the rest of haters, whine all you want.

 

[VP-70]

I associate myself with online communities on subjects that i really have knowledge about than jus sharing profiles or making friends to avoid boredom. Since i have knowledge on subjects, i tend to get into arguments. I don't find anything wrong in arguing as long as people don't mislead arguments into personal attacks. Most of the time, I find arguments to mislead...they get all emotional demanding respect or start presuming as the other party is being mean in not agreeing with them.

Despite allegations against me, I prefer hanging out here cuz i got a couple of good people who enjoy my company. For the rest of haters, whine all you want.

Lol, sorry but that made me Lol pretty hard. Taking the internet a little too seriously champ.

I admit i haven't a Scooby-doo what these Whinings are about, but you should be able to state your claim, and rise above any baiting that may go on as a result.

not everyone is the same, so you must give them space to learn and grow or express themselves their own way.

 

[KennedyKiller]

I think if you wanna be the real you, be the real you when it comes to the interwebz...But ALL people at one point or another, have wished they were cooler or smarter, or taller, or stronger, or wished they were something they weren't...The internet can create that for them, and, so long as the people aren't mentally twisted they can still separate fantasy from reality, and can get up, go to work, and go to sleep knowing who they REALLY are is different than their internet persona...

 

[sadistic_greyfox]

For me it's different I suppose, the closer I get to someone the more I openly joke about every and all things, and share my life "stuff" doesn't matter if online or offline. I do admit folks online seem to be less judgmental, probably because i cant see their faces reacting to the things I tell them . These days though all my real physical friends have moved on, either by schools out of state or starting up families/getting married, most of my friends these days are online friends and they help me keep my sanity, it sucks that the closest ones seems to be in other states as I can totally see myself get sh*tfaced drunk with them on a weekend and doing very questionable/illegal things.

My physical friends could never keep up with gay jokes like my online friends though. Make a joke about banging a dude and they think I'm the gayest man in the universe, my online buds are right there with me bi-sexualin' the place up .

 

[VP-70]

I find a lot of the time that everyone... I mean including my real life and online friends open up to me for some reason. I've been nicknamed the human confessional for a reason. I never tell anyone else, and I give out advice that is good apparently or people wouldn't keep coming to me with their problems...

Problem is though, I have my OWN problems to deal with on my own... So the fact that people are sharing theirs with me in confidence just stacks on more problems lol. I've heard things from people before that would make anyone else not be able to sleep at night... It's funny when people who have shared such intimate details with me treat me wrong. I could share it with anyone if I wanted to, but out of respect for them (even if they have none for me) I keep it to myself.

With that said, I probably wouldn't want to share something way too intimate with an online friend unless I've known them for years. I don't just go around sharing my secrets, especially if it can be taken as a "weakness" to others. That's the sad thing about the internet... You have places like /b/ where people are openly trying to sabotage others lives for the "lulz". There's a fine line of just playing around and serious hacking and/or cyber bullying someone to death.

I know exactly how you feel.

The things people have told me... * whistle *

Yet they dropped me and picked me up whenever they felt like it, yet were never there for me. I get alot of that. I guess when people trust you to that level, and you do not spill the beans, they envy you for seemingly being able to have such a moral back bone. Then it gets all silly.

 

[Some Nights]

I'd say my online friends know more about me than most of my real life friends do. I'm not the most popular person to begin with so I try to avoid alienating the few friends I do have at the moment. I tell myself this is a high school thing and hopefully things will improve in college but I don't know.

I just think it is easier to tell someone something on the internet than in real life. For example I would rather tell someone something like "I am bi/gay" online than in real life. Telling someone online has little to no consequence. They may laugh or say something negative but I will never meet that person in real life anyway. A negative reaction in real life can be much more painful. Of course there are exceptions to this. If I am really close to someone I can tell them anything. I just don't feel that way with anyone at this time.

The internet is overall a nicer community/group of people if you are smart about it. With the internet you can find people that are dealing with the same issues you face daily. This helps create a sense of relief knowing you aren't the only one dealing with these things (at least for me.) Just like many other things the internet also has its downsides such as cyber bullying. However, I think that in most cases cyber bullying is an issue that starts with real life bullying that escalates. In many cases of cyber bullying it seems the issue with bullying had already existed in the person's life.

Well, that was a disorganized mess.

 

[Storyofmylife]

I'd say my online friends know more about me than most of my real life friends do. I'm not the most popular person to begin with so I try to avoid alienating the few friends I do have at the moment. I tell myself this is a high school thing and hopefully things will improve in college but I don't know.

I just think it is easier to tell someone something on the internet than in real life. For example I would rather tell someone something like "I am bi/gay" online than in real life. Telling someone online has little to no consequence. They may laugh or say something negative but I will never meet that person in real life anyway. A negative reaction in real life can be much more painful. Of course there are exceptions to this. If I am really close to someone I can tell them anything. I just don't feel that way with anyone at this time.

The internet is overall a nicer community/group of people if you are smart about it. With the internet you can find people that are dealing with the same issues you face daily. This helps create a sense of relief knowing you aren't the only one dealing with these things (at least for me.) Just like many other things the internet also has its downsides such as cyber bullying. However, I think that in most cases cyber bullying is an issue that starts with real life bullying that escalates. In many cases of cyber bullying it seems the issue with bullying had already existed in the person's life.

Well, that was a disorganized mess.

Things will definitely get better for you when you go into College. The things that mattered in High School won't when you get there. Although there will still be clicks there, it won't be half as bad and most of the time everyone is new there and getting to know one another. The "popular" people in highschool will have to start all over again, so you all will be in the same boat trying to meet more people.

Most of the time in College there are LGBT groups that also have straight people in them and they are very accepting and a very nice set of people. I'd try to sign up for groups like that so you can meet likeminded people who won't judge AND you get to go out and do some fun activities with them. I signed up for a few sports groups at my community college and it was pretty awesome, I almost wanted to be daring enough to sign up for a gamer group, but I'm not completely out of the closet yet as a nerd irl. ;-)

 

[Some Nights]

Things will definitely get better for you when you go into College. The things that mattered in High School won't when you get there. Although there will still be clicks there, it won't be half as bad and most of the time everyone is new there and getting to know one another. The "popular" people in highschool will have to start all over again, so you all will be in the same boat trying to meet more people.

Most of the time in College there are LGBT groups that also have straight people in them and they are very accepting and a very nice set of people. I'd try to sign up for groups like that so you can meet likeminded people who won't judge AND you get to go out and do some fun activities with them. I signed up for a few sports groups at my community college and it was pretty awesome, I almost wanted to be daring enough to sign up for a gamer group, but I'm not completely out of the closet yet as a nerd irl. ;-)

I'm definitely looking forward to college. Even if there aren't any appealing clubs people will be taking classes that they like/choose. That will mean that there will be similar people already.

 

[Storyofmylife]

I'm definitely looking forward to college. Even if there aren't any appealing clubs people will be taking classes that they like/choose. That will mean that there will be similar people already.

Exactly! If your College has The history of Rock N roll... TAKE THAT COURSE! It's awesome and there's usually good looking kids in the class. Psychology will ALWAYS have hot guys/girls too that are intelligent, and of course there's theater. Those courses and any acting course have awesome teachers.

 

[Some Nights]

Exactly! If your College has The history of Rock N roll... TAKE THAT COURSE! It's awesome and there's usually good looking kids in the class. Psychology will ALWAYS have hot guys/girls too that are intelligent, and of course there's theater. Those courses and any acting course have awesome teachers.

Wonderful, that is actually what I will probably choose to major in. XD

 

[Storyofmylife]

Wonderful, that is actually what I will probably choose to major in. XD

Awesome! You'll love Psychology. You should try out sociology too, very interesting course.