Your sexuality.

[Rain611]

I'm bi. It's interesting the responses I've gotten since coming out, but I think the one that annoys me the most was from an ex boyfriend who assumed that when a girl is bisexual she just wants twice as much attention... Personally, just because I could have a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't automatically mean I'm only interested in threesomes lol. If fact, when I do put forth the effort it takes to have a romantic relationship, I prefer it be personal and meaningful and not just a physical fling.

 

[Larae]

My first relationship was with a girl, but, we were fifteen and 'best' friends.
It was then, after three years with her that I had become scarred by women, and have since been unable to have female friends/girlfriends due to CRAZINESS.
I have been with men since then, and now I have found myself in a relationship with a man that I plan to say 'I do' to come later this year.

 

[Rain611]

I've had little other than bad luck with men.

 

[cheezMcNASTY]

I've had little other than bad luck with men.

Really? Do tell. If you're comfortable with that, of course.

 

[KennedyKiller]

I've had little other than bad luck with men.

Really? Do tell. If you're comfortable with that, of course.

Does she really need to..Men suck, simple as that...

 

[Rain611]

Really? Do tell. If you're comfortable with that, of course.

Long story short, the men I've been with were either only in it for sex and controlling or they ended up cheating on me.

 

[Storyofmylife]

Long story short, the men I've been with were either only in it for sex and controlling or they ended up cheating on me.

My first "boyfriend" (and I put him in quotation marks because he wasn't really, it only lasted 2 weeks and I was 14) was bipolar and hit me with a baseball bat ONCE. Then I told him to go f*ck himself and had to leave my highschool because after he got suspended he came back with a knife... Oh how I pick winners!

 

[KennedyKiller]

Holy hell...That's screwed up...

 

[Rain611]

My first "boyfriend" (and I put him in quotation marks because he wasn't really, it only lasted 2 weeks and I was 14) was bipolar and hit me with a baseball bat ONCE. Then I told him to go f*ck himself and had to leave my highschool because after he got suspended he came back with a knife... Oh how I pick winners!

Sounds like the women in my family. A lot of them have been in physically abusive relationships. None of my boyfriends ever hit me (my mom would have damn near killed them if they did) but the controlling boyfriend I mentioned would tell me I had to call him every day or he would get all ****ed and get on my case. Then he would show up unannounced (in a bad way) and belittle me before starting the routine over again. It got to the point where I just didnt trust him anymore, not to mention the useless emotional abuse.

 

[Romero]

I actually just did a workshop on gender and sexuality. There are two types of attraction. Sexual and romantic. There are some people who are only really attracted in one of the two ways, but most people experience both. Demisexual is a person that can experience sexual attraction, but they need to get to know the person first. Hope that helps.

Haha I didn't expect to learn so much in this thread miss teacher.
I searched "demisexual", didn't get many hits. Out of a half dozen online dictionaries, only Urban Dictionary had any definitions and they are mostly a slang place.

I found many other terms, I bet few of you are familiar with half of them. Here's a list of the more special ones:

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Quite some list.

And lastly, from South Park: Bikecurious - I think it was confused bikers lol.

 

[Storyofmylife]

Sounds like the women in my family. A lot of them have been in physically abusive relationships. None of my boyfriends ever hit me (my mom would have damn near killed them if they did) but the controlling boyfriend I mentioned would tell me I had to call him every day or he would get all ****ed and get on my case. Then he would show up unannounced (in a bad way) and belittle me before starting the routine over again. It got to the point where I just didnt trust him anymore, not to mention the useless emotional abuse.

Yeah, that's why I only "let" it happen once. I wasn't gonna take his sh*t, you should never try to beat something up that's physically weaker than you... That's just cowardly and that doesn't make you a man at all. Good you dumped him, you didn't have to put up with his jealous/psychotic behavior.

 

[VP-70]

Ps, am also a sexual-tyranasuruas!

 

[cheezMcNASTY]

Long story short, the men I've been with were either only in it for sex and controlling or they ended up cheating on me.

Oh wow, that makes sense. There are a lot of guys out there who do both of those things. From how you phrased it I thought you were having trouble picking up guys and my response was somewhere along the lines of "how hard could it be?"

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My first "boyfriend" (and I put him in quotation marks because he wasn't really, it only lasted 2 weeks and I was 14) was bipolar and hit me with a baseball bat ONCE. Then I told him to go f*ck himself and had to leave my highschool because after he got suspended he came back with a knife... Oh how I pick winners!

Normally I'd play devil's advocate and defend bipolar disorder, but I really can't justify that at all. Bipolar disorder is an ugly disease, but there is no excuse for hitting anyone, especially a partner, with a baseball bat. If he's that unstable he just has no business moving past one night stands where he can get his fix without putting anyone in danger. Don't even get me started on knives. Jesus Christmas.

Does she really need to..Men suck, simple as that...

Now this I would dispute. There are a lot of scumbags out there on both sides of the gender line. If you're hitting a brick wall, you're just not looking in the right places.

 

[KennedyKiller]

Now this I would dispute. There are a lot of scumbags out there on both sides of the gender line. If you're hitting a brick wall, you're just not looking in the right places.

So, let's face it...Men are infamous for being jerks...Women are infamous for being able to HIDE that they're jerks...Men have the worst have the worst rep, and rightfully so...This is SPEAKING as a man too...

 

[Angel]

I don't think men should get such a bad rep - women can be just as damaging, even if it's not necessarily physical (although that does happen more often than people realise). How many times have I heard someone's wife/girlfriend put her man down in public or, worse, when he's right there with her? Slagging him off, calling him useless, poking fun at his sexual prowess or lack of it etc etc...my sister does this to her husband and I pulled her up on it once. she came back with "well he's done nothing to earn my respect so I can say what I like about him and to him" which I thought was just wrong. Just because he doesn't meet her expectations 100% of the time does not qualify him for verbal and emotional abuse - because that's what it is, at the end of the day. I've had to ask her to not speak about men in front of my daughter too because of how disparaging she is about them. She had one bad relationship years ago and refused to get help over it afterwards and now it's everyone's fault that she can't deal with it. All men are useless, all men are pigs, all men blah blah blah - why in the hell she got married I'll never know. Maybe because she can bully this one?

My first and last serious relationship before getting married was to someone 8 years older than me (my daughter's father). Now that was a bad relationship and it took me 3 years of counselling to get over it but I don't for one second think all men are such and such or that they ought to be tarred the same thanks to one bad guy. Sure, it's made me a tad more cautious and maybe more sensitive to certain subjects but that's only served as being a good thing in the long term.

 

[Rain611]

You're right, Angel. Men are not the only abusers in relationships, and because men are brought up to be tough guys, a lot of them cant admit when they are being abused in some way by their woman. That being said, the relationship cards that I've been dealt (not just in the field of romance by the way) have left me on my guard around the majority of men, whereas pretty much all of the women in my life have treated me well and I've always felt safe around them (moreso than with men). I don't need a man to protect me physically, I've made sure I can handle that myself. So, if I do find a man (or woman) who makes me feel like I can be myself around them, maybe then I'd give it another go.

 

[Mr Sunshine]

Does she really need to..Men suck, simple as that...

So, let's face it...Men are infamous for being jerks...Women are infamous for being able to HIDE that they're jerks...Men have the worst have the worst rep, and rightfully so...This is SPEAKING as a man too...

Women are also (in)famous for controlling their boyfriend's mind...... *rolleyes*



Regarding the initial question, I'm as straight as my dick.

 

[Storyofmylife]

Normally I'd play devil's advocate and defend bipolar disorder, but I really can't justify that at all. Bipolar disorder is an ugly disease, but there is no excuse for hitting anyone, especially a partner, with a baseball bat. If he's that unstable he just has no business moving past one night stands where he can get his fix without putting anyone in danger. Don't even get me started on knives. Jesus Christmas.

Oh yes, I know BPD most of the time doesn't cause violence, I think maybe he had a bit of paranoid schizophrenia as well with the way he acted. My best friend has BPD and when he's down he just likes his space, he's the most peaceful dude I've ever met! There may be different levels of it as well causing some to be violent and others not... I don't know, I'm no psychiatrist myself.

As far as women go, yes they can be equally as abusive, just in different ways. I find scarring the heart and mind much worse than any physical harm, even though that does psychological harm to you as well if you're stupid enough to stay in a relationship like that. Problem is with emotional abuse, sometimes you don't know it's happening for quite some time until it's too late and you're already mind f*cked. /:

 

[Sonnentreppe]

I'm gay--surprise, surprise! Might have been fairly obvious, but the thing about me is that I don't go around shouting it. I don't try to hide it either though. Being gay doesn't define who I am, so I don't let it. But I'm always honest about my life, and if people want to know something, chances are it's out there (or in the pudding--whatever that means)...

 

[Storyofmylife]

I'm gay--surprise, surprise! Might have been fairly obvious, but the thing about me is that I don't go around shouting it. I don't try to hide it either though. Being gay doesn't define who I am, so I don't let it. But I'm always honest about my life, and if people want to know something, chances are it's out there (or in the pudding--whatever that means)...

You're gay?!?! Damnit... I wanted you to be my bf ... Well you can always be my gay boyfriend.