Advice

[JujuLodestar]

Can somebody please help?

My family is pretty rocky right now and everytime something bad happens its automatically my fault.

I only asked a question that turned into a fight and its my fault.

I just advice any kind right now...I've never felt so broken before...its just...it feels awful...

 

[Jen]

It sucks when things aren't going right with your family... My advice to you would be to try and ignore them when they say that the fights are your fault, which I know it's difficult. Do you and your family spend a lot of time together? Because sometimes when people are cooped up together they can really start to annoy each other. Maybe arrange to go out with friends or stay with them occasionally, keep yourself busy and de-stress. Sometimes time apart can do the world of good. You could always try asking them why they act this way with you, but be careful with that because that could result in yet another argument. But it might help if you talked it through properly with them, air your views... If other arguments happen I think the best thing to do would be to remove yourself from the situation - leave the room, go for a walk to clear your head. I know you've probably thought of a lot of these things yourself already. I hope I helped though. And I hope things get better.

 

[JujuLodestar]

It sucks when things aren't going right with your family... My advice to you would be to try and ignore them when they say that the fights are your fault, which I know it's difficult. Do you and your family spend a lot of time together? Because sometimes when people are cooped up together they can really start to annoy each other. Maybe arrange to go out with friends or stay with them occasionally, keep yourself busy and de-stress. Sometimes time apart can do the world of good. You could always try asking them why they act this way with you, but be careful with that because that could result in yet another argument... If other arguments happen I think the best thing to do would be to remove yourself from the situation - leave the room, go for a walk to clear your head. I know you've probably thought of a lot of these things yourself already. I hope I helped though. And I hope things get better.

That's next to impossible when they live with you. Another fact is I isolate myself which makes them complain when I'm out i tend to rant to myself since I'm on my phone they complain I'm annoying I try to go back in my room complain again. I start telling them how they contradict what they just said they get ****ed call a higher up I'll get hit with something painful.

I isolate myself. repeat also I have no friends in this area I don't get good vibes from anyone here so I keep my distance. so I got nothing to rely on and to make matters worse my parents are getting tired of me.

PARENTS HOW DOES A PARENT START TO DISLIKE THERE OWN SON?

Not to mention I have NO history of drugs or anything unlike two of my other brothers and am considered the worst of the family.

How does that seem fair? I have to give to others but get nothing in return.

On Christmas my parents got 5 gifts (The least anyone got) Me? Zero

Everyone else? 5,6,7 Up to 10

I can't go for walks since the area gives me creeps

All in all I'm just not wanted here.

Yet I can't leave here either.

 

[Jen]

That does seem pretty crappy... Has this ever happened before? If yes, how did you stop it?
I don't really know what to suggest. Is there no friend you could stay with for a few days? I realise you say you have no friends in that area, but are there any outside your area that you could stay with, that aren't too far away?
I'm sorry I'm not being much help.

 

[KennedyKiller]

Positivity...It's always the best rule of thumb. No matter what happens, just keep smiling and being happy. It's only as bad as you make it. So even if they OR you try to make it but, just sit there and stop. Realize there's nothing worth feeling upset, or depressed, or sad about. It's not easy, but nothing in life worth doing is easy.

 

[Spikeyroxas]

Don't do anything to give them reason to single you out.
If it carries on after a few days you should try to confront them and tell them that you feel like you have been singled out and picked on, and you would rather stay somewhere else because your finding it unbearable.
I have had these situations and I felt the same way
I used to come home eat dinner and stay in my room because I hated being in the same room as my stepdad
My mum was borderline and picked different sides depending on the situation.
I was lucky in the fact that my parents were split up so I went to my dads at the weekends, but one particular day I had to go to my dads because I couldn't face going back there.
You need to show them how you really feel or else nothing will get done about it.